From Fear to Love, an Absurd Amount

Our lives have been strange. Not in the strange and wonderful way, but in the absurd way.

I was chilling with my tea, as I do each morning. And I took a moment to scroll my Facebook feed. I say ‘MY feed’, but in reality we know that it’s a FB allotted feed. What with the algorithms and all that jazz.

Anyhoos, I took a dive into the FB Newsfeed this morning. And I’m pretty sure the world has gone mad.

I’d list some of the nightmare things I read there. But it honestly feels far too heavy to share. I have no desire to depress you, dear reader. So carry on…it does get cheerfuller. (Is that a real word? It works for me.)

What I will say is that doom and gloom dominated. Yes, doom and gloom. But more than that, far more, was a horrible sense of FEAR and ANGER. And unfortunately, division.

Where’s the kindness? Where’s the support? What about the love? What happened to ‘we’re all in this together?’ It’s much more ‘all I care about is me, and you should care for me most too!’ (Too long for a hashtag?)

And a little whisper tickled my mind. ‘WTF next?’

My mind recoiled. I felt compelled to recall the message! It felt like I was challenging the Universe (Great Goodness, God, Goddess, Creator) to continue on this spiral of horror, doom and gloom. After all, wasn’t I thinking in fear.

Quickly I went to correct my thinking. My heart was heavy. I felt the pull of sadness. But then, I look up.

I smiled. Breathed deeply. Came back to the moment. Steaming cup of tea ready for sipping. Gluten-free biscuit ready for dunking. Kitten being super cute, playing on the sofa beside me. The full moon in all her glory still hovering in the morning sky.

All is well. And all is well.

And I allowed ‘what the eff next?’ to soften and change within me. WTF became WEIP? What else is possible?

Just like that I stopped dreading. Instead I embraced the possibility of miracles, magic. Beauty and kindness. And you know what? The little whisper became ‘HOW ABOUT LOVE?’

How about love?

I believe and teach that all our feelings and emotions fall into one of two categories:

Love or Fear.

Yes, that simple really. When we afraid, angry, vengeful, suspicious or any of those types of feelings, they all stem from fear. And when we feel grateful, kind, compassionate, empathetic etc. Well, they come from love.

So, I changed my mind. From FEAR that something even worse would happen next. To LOVE that something better would happen next. From fear to love. Get it?

Love comes next.

The weight of doom and gloom lifted.

Yes, horrible things happen. Every day people are hurt, die, fall out of love, get sick. And every single day people heal, fall in love, make love even, get well. We find our wishes. Turn our dreams into realities. Smile, laugh and sing.

The bottom-line is we all want to feel safe. So, there’s the common ground to end division. Acknowledge that your way of feeling safe may not be the same as mine. But I see you. And I know in my heart that you want to feel safe. To be seen. Validated. Heard.

How do we make this happen? We move from fear into love.

First step is to be present. With ourselves. With our friends, family, loved ones. And then take this out into the communities we live in.

I also decided that simply a little love isn’t going to cut it right now. We need absurd amounts of love to counteract the absurd amounts of fear.

So, dearheart, starting today! Love is the way.

And psst, if I fall into despair again, I’ll just re-set to love again. And I’ll repeat as often as needed.

Wanna join me?

Where are you holding fear? How can you release that tension and move into love? Drop a comment below, please do.

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Big love,