I recently needed some help from someone I used to employ. I have paid thousands of dollars to this person over the years. And I had tons of service, fun and friendship.
But one day, there came a point when I didn’t need them in my life anymore. We had gone our separate ways. My business changed and it was time to part ways.
Endings are often full of unpleasant moments. There is disappointment and a sense of loss. Both sides can feel injured, perhaps even unappreciated. But it is part of life and life goes on…
That is…until you reconnect.
So, the IRS decide to audit me. Yikes! Scramble to get numbers and receipts together. The fun begins…
And I needed to go back to this business professional that I had employed for many years. That person who I had shared good and bad times both business and personal.
And trying to get a receipt for monies paid became a pain in the bum! No response to emails. I went the social media route and did the courtesy of a private message. A terse response followed. And it got me to thinking of that old adage:
Character is shown by how you treat those who can do nothing for you.
So now I’m not spending thousands of dollars annually to avail myself of this person’s services, I’m chopped liver? Yes!
But what does it say about her character?
And I look inwards and say, what does it say about mine?
I know that sometimes I have been frustrated over the years by requests from past clients and students looking for information or free services. Including the odd missing receipt! And how do I respond?
With kindness and compassion.
I respond promptly, do what I can, answer questions, supply their needs. Why? Because that’s how you go through life with self-respect. That’s how you tell the universe and the Great Goodness how you wish to be treated.
And maybe our paths will cross again and they’ll once again want to do business with me. And maybe they won’t, but I know that I feel good putting my head on the pillow at night.
So, this whole incident got to me to thinking about how I can sometimes be less than compassionate and kind. And I’m tuning myself up! Self respect has to be high on my list of personal attributes. Don’t be compassionate and kind so that others admire you. Admire yourself!
Yes, I can go to bed tonight with my cares behind me and feeling good about me. Can you? If not, can you think of any changes you can make that will help you to feel good about you?
Looking good ~ feeling great! Choose Happy and make your life sparkle!
PS Found a lovely message from Kuan Yin: Release judgments about yourself and others, and focus on the love and light that is within everyone. Gentleness is the strength behind true power, and it comes from feeding yourself with nourishing words, thoughts, deeds, intentions, and all forms of food. Shield yourself from harshness by placing an intention to attract only kind and gentle life lessons and relationships.
PPS Another lesson learned that I share: don’t rely on cancelled checks…get receipts for payments as you go. And put contracts in place when doing business, even with people you trust and value as friends.
PPPS How did it end? After receiving an email asking me to pay her $50 per ‘search’ of her records, I let it go. Apparently Revenue Canada don’t think very highly of that practice! And the IRS…fingers crossed they take my photocopies of cancelled checks and accompanying bank statements.